Wednesday, March 08, 2006
Speaking Of Rules
You know, I am just such a fan of self help. When you are blur (I prefer 'clouded') like me, it helps to have someone spell it out for you. Friends are generally good at this, but often they are the same age as you and simply lack the maturity to perceive things that are true and simple. No offence to the pillars holding me up - you are obviously doing a great job, cos I am still standing (in my Rockin' Reptile Mentos-green sequinned fuck-me heels).
May I be cheesy and recommend a couple self help books? Sorry, I cannot help it - if you find something that works for you, there's no harm in sharing right? And anyway, it's my blog and I will be pedantic if I so wish.
The Rules Of Life is a personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life. It's written by Richard Templar and is available at MPH. I've so far learned about shopping for quality, not price; the importance of dressing like today is important; looking after myself and pruning my stuff regularly. So simple yet when I was reading it, I found lightbulbs turning on in the dim recesses of my mind and I was suddenly nodding to myself and looking generally quite stupid. I shall no doubt be blogging more about these individual rules once I attempt to put them into practice instead of just reading about them.
I can't wait to get to 'Contentment is a high aim', 'Have a little respect and forgiveness for your parents' and 'Be part of the solution not the problem'.
On Snagging The One
OK girlfriends, the best seller The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider was given to me before I was married and I must express my intense frustration at still not having read it because it came so highly recommended that it was immediately snapped up by someone who passed it to someone else who passed it to someone's sister etc etc. So whoever currently has my copy of The Rules, give it back, cos it would be nice to read about how its suppoesd to be done.
The book's popularity has lead to online help. It's comforting to know that they even have support groups for those of us who really needt he help. See you there!
Meanwhile, here are some rules from the book you may want to take note of:
1. Realize that you may not meet Mr. Right naturally and that you therefore must take social action immediately even if you don't want to.
2. Remember, the first three visits are really nothing more than three dates... and on the first three dates we don't have sex with a man or have him stay at our place overnight.
3. We know this is hard to accept, but it's not that he hasn't called because he's busy, or because you didn't smile or talk enough (or did too much). It's not that he lost your phone number. The bottom line is, if he hasn't called, he's not that interested.
4. Close the deal! Rules women do not date nen for more than two years. If you've followed The Rules, your man probably loves you and wants to marry you. Your problem is not if he marries you, but when! If it's been more than a year, see less of him and think about dating others. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose; do you have another year to wait?
5. Love may be blind, but Rules girls are not stupid! How does he act in the relationship? Is he cheap on dates? Is he critical of you? Remember, The Rules are not about marrying the first man you are attracted to who calls you by Wednesday for Saturday night and buys you flowers. It's about marrying your own personal Mr. Right -- a man whom you love and whose character you admire and can live with.
So go forth and propogate. Yes, from the little that I've read from the book, and the lessons I have learned from relationships, they make sense!
Posted by Rafleesia at 9:19 PM